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Personal Philosophy

Complacency is the Enemy

Before we start getting into it, you may have noticed I went back to my old style with green replacing maroon. I just wasn’t digging the blue/brown motif. I still can’t get that damn title centered. I will have to enlist some help. *sigh* I always hate giving up.

I have been sort of restless recently, not satisfied with my life and being drove virtually crazy. Some may suggest I might want to change my outlook, but in reality this is how I hope I am in 5, 10, 20 years from now. It is feelings like this which inspire change. It drives me to do better. It motivates me to try to make my life better, fix what’s wrong and if it can’t be fixed figure why; then change the rules so I can. I have been satisfied before. I became stagnant, uninteresting, and boring. I was perfectly happy. I hated it. Something inside told me I hated it, but I was too blinded by everything going on to realize it. I look back and am absolutely disgusted with myself. I can’t believe I let myself be that way. I never want to fall prey to that again. I am on a constant quest to to better myself. Learn something new, invent something, figure something out, solve a problem, something so at the end of the day I can feel I have accomplished something; something so that I’m not just another leech on this whole human existence. The American dream of a wife, house in the suburbs, white picket fence, and 2.5 kids is my ultimate nightmare. If I end up that way I will consider myself a failure. It is not my idea of success. Change is the only constant, so accept it and use it to your advantage. Memories are nice, but don’t let them control you. You have a life to live, so don’t get hung up in the daily grind and go do something.

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Philosophy

A Sad State of Affairs

I’m sorry most of these posts have been about love, but to be honest it’s kind of been on my mind a lot lately. So, I tend to observe people around me, maybe more than I should. I see many couple walking around and almost all of them just don’t look happy. I hear them bicker and fight over the stupidest shit. “I really would like to go to McDonalds.” “I DON’T WANT TO GO TO MCDONALDS, YOU KNOW I HATE IT!” “…but” “NO, JUST…YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME.” Is that really necessary? Isn’t there really more important things to be doing? I mean if you can’t stand the persons company why are you with them. I see this trend more and more. People just stick together because they are just too lazy or too scared to break up with them. I though the whole goal of dating is to find the one you’re most compatible with. Why waste time on someone you obviously are not? If it comes down to laziness that is just the saddest excuse of all, how can you be too lazy to find someone you can be compatible with? I really think this might be the reason the divorce rate is so high. You are just with this person so much it becomes habit, then you get married. Why? Because it’s just naturally the next step, of course. Then you have 3 kids and realize you are in a loveless marriage and it’s all you you can do just to stand the person. You both go to work, he comes home and you have silent dinner then put the kids to bed and maybe, just maybe have emotionless sex before bed. This is really bothers me and I refuse to live such a meaningless existence. I don’t care if I am alone forever. I would rather be alone then suffer through that hell. You can tell me I’m naive and that’s just not how things work. Well, then I’m changing the rules. I refuse to play this game. Love should be exciting and you should always want to be with your significant other. Not say you two become one person and never do anything else, but spending time with that person should not be a chore. Fights happen, of course they will, but I think it really should be over some important issue not a million tiny, worthless problems. I guess this is why I am a hopeless romantic. I crave the ideal relationship even though it may not exist. I’ll keep searching though.

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Nonsense

Kid’s Say The Darndest Things (about love)

So, I was sent this link the other day about a study some people at MIT did. Maybe no so much a study but more of a Q and A with some little kids about love. I was surprised at some of their answers.

When asked about the role of beauty in love, 8 year-old Anita said, “If you want to be loved by somebody who isn’t already in your family, it doesn’t hurt to be beautiful.” When Christine age 9 was asked the same question her response was, “Beauty is only skin deep, but how rich you are can last a long time.”10 year-old Arnold was asked the question; How do people normally act when they are in love? He replied with”Mooshy … like puppy dogs … except puppy dogs don’t wag their tails nearly as much.” Floyd age 9 told MIT “Love is foolish..but I still might try it sometime.” My all-time favorite response was from Mike age 10, when asked what do people usually do on a date? He, in his young genius mind, came up with “On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.”

These might seem pretty silly and for they really should be taken as such, but I just can’t believe how spot-on some of these kids were. Most people write kids off because of their age. I really think that their age gives them an advantage in observation. They are not yet tainted by social norms or political correctness. They probably don’t realize it at the time, but they actually give, for the most part, true statement about topics. Kids are like sponges at that age and they soak up whatever they see and hear. All they are doing is relaying our actions. Maybe asking a kid about love isn’t such a crazy idea after all. While they may not fully understand love they may offer insight into the obvious stuff we may glance over.